28 May 2005


Pictured above, an obsidian dildo sculpted from natural volcanic glass from Mi-Su Sexual Aesthetics. (It costs only £900.)

via Technorgasmic and Boing Boing

27 May 2005

Ties get you laid

For anyone really wondering how to get laid and are lacking the confidence to smack a girl around (girls like assholes), ties are the next best thing. And Christian girls walk a fine line between secretly wanting to be defecated on while performing their first internet-breaking bukakke premiere (from the Japanese ぶっかけ) and looking for a nice guy to bring to church with them, doing good will with, and essentially trying to live up to the Big Guy's expectations. Though, I also find that more Christian men are dogged by Christian morals than Christian women — till they get fucking old and stupid, that is, then they seem to latch onto it in hope that God doesn't judge them for fucking assholes in college — and the men seem to, statistically opposed to women, get a bit wiser in regards to human nature.

But if you wanna pick up some girls (they won't be above 4–5 on the scale) at some local community functions, here's where you have to start: 2002 Ties.

26 May 2005

Nerve.com as saviour?

Wow, so there are these two little gems that popped up on Nerve recently:

missspinn, Calgary



And here is the local gem, the first time I've seen "occult scholar" put down in anyone's personal that wasn't some death cookie goth fruit from the northeastern United States. Perhaps she'll return my msg to her? She's aggressive enough to put even me to shame:—

Aspasia_of_Iqaluit, Edmonton


Last great book I read
CD Wright's Cooling Time : An American Poetry Vigil
Letters of Virginia Woolf to/from Vita Sackville-West
Caroline Walker Bynum's Holy Feast and Holy Fast: The Religious Significance of Food to Medieval Women
Claudia Rankine's Don't Let Me Be Lonely: An American Lyric
Keith and Rosemarie Waldrop's Ceci N'est pas Keith/Ceci N'est pas Rosmarie
Richard Kieckhefer's Magic in the Middle Ages

Favorite on-screen sex scene
The one in my head where Ashley Judd and Selma Hayek tango, kiss, and then *keep going.*

Celebrity I resemble most
Born of the lust of Catherine the Great (and her man-servant), my lineage provides features both promising and terrible.

Best or worst lie I've ever told
I am an ex-model now stewardess who will do it in first class for vast sums of money and/or key pieces of intelligence.

The five items I can't live without
I love the Internet. It is all things awesome and good. I love that amazon can get me a fucking toothbrush or diamond ring to my door. I love that Netflix is forcing Blockbuster to give up fees. I love email. I love playing "next blog." I love TV without commercials.

I love my bed.

I love really nice clothes. It is a sickness, I know. It is my one true girlie-girl trait.

I love airports. I hate flying, but I love airports. I love their "future is nowhere is here" design. I love their vast spaces and how they always urge me to trade my ticket home for one to Prague.

Good shoes for walking to a good beach for some good swimming.

WHY YOU SHOULD GET TO KNOW ME
Whether you need a campfire, a 5 course meal for 10 in 3 hours, a new singer for your band, someone to do it with in a rare book library, an occult scholar (not practitioner), a date for the Bridgehampton Polo Challenge, a writer, a tour guide for the Rockies and/or Vancouver Island, a designer, someone to go shopping with mom and take dad to a hockey game (or vice versa), a Latin or French translator, a beach bum, a swimming coach, someone to teach you to skate and snowshoe, or someone to simply eat olives with on your sailboat: I'm your woman.

Plus, I know that "Igloolik" means "there is an igloo here."

25 May 2005

Emilie

I wanna fly to France to stalk this guy's girlfriend. I love Flickr.


21 May 2005

Female psychology of self-worth

In the traditional Sexy Losers way, this seems to pretty much sum up how women think. Anyone reading this and not familiar with Sexy Losers, follow that link now!

Little Miss Thang


It was Kyle’s birthday tonight, so Mark and I went out to St Albert for a few. So as this site was supposed to be pursuing some sort of fuck-stupid-chicks sort of theme, two things of theme happened tonight:

Kyle & Marie figure it would be a good idea to hook me up with Marie’s friend, Vivi. So here’s Vivi’s rundown:
• Asian (Chinese, if I recall)
• Is not quite fluent with the anglais yet
• Has her degree in business; whether it’s a BComm or what, I dunno
• Moved to Canada at the start of her university career
• She had/has a wet-on for Kyle
• Apparently wants an “artsy guy” to take her to “cool places”
• Apparently wants to get laid — strong possibility she’s just looking for a trophy boyfriend
• Kyle & Marie attest to her being “fucking hot” (those Asian genes, I suppose)
• To be expected, she’s into couture (see: brand whore?)
• Her family is loaded

Here is my rundown:
• Slavic (Ukrainian, Romanian, Polish)
• I often mumble as I’m wont to be lost in thought
• When I do speak, I am gooders with words consisting of more than three syllables
• I like the business side to her, I’ve come to be fascinated by economics that I can wrap my little head around
• I, too, have a wet-on for Kyle
• While I don’t know how “artsy” I am, the artists I do happen to appreciate are surrealists, often apocalyptic and macabre
• I do know cool places, however… and yes, inside my pants counts
• I like gorgeous women, though have little experience with Asian women
• Just because I work with brands and design doesn’t mean I believe in tributaries
• My family is poor… though not nearly as poor as, say, a family from Laos or some African desert

Kyle & Marie are going to hook a dinner up. Essentially she’s looking for a political move to meet more people within Edmonton, so who am I to deny? And I’ve always wondered whether or not Asian girls’ pubic hair is softer than everyone else’s.

Second event to happen tonight:

As we’re sitting in Crown & Tower, this tables sits next to us — behind me, to be particular — and I catch this semi-cute rail of a girl sit directly to my back. I can’t catch a good glimpse so I only check out her angles, orange sandles, and from my periphery I can tell she’s skin and bones. Now I’ll be honest when I say anorexia is something I can’t empathise with, but I can pity. The warping of self-worth through some sick perception of self-worth based solely on physical appearance. Ugh.

So I’m already making fun of her in my head, but other than a few looks at Mark, I say nothing. Twiggy eventually gets up and I try to see her face (I wouldn’t normally make the effort but I liked her hair, although any sort of lusty thought formed to the rest of her, her arms especially, would be like trying to jerk off to Schindler’s List), so anyhow she gets up to go to the restroom and I tell Kyle that bedding her would be a novelty.

He looks up at her, then to me, “That’s Jill’s sister, eh.”

So here it is: growing up I figured there was a hierarchy to the tribe of humans, then I became disillusioned and found out that those that tried too hard were more often than not crashing and burning on their own lack of esteem or self-worth. Although I can be an ass, this sorta put me for a loop.

I caught Jill’s Sister’s face (we all forgot her name, unfortunately, but oh well) on the way back and couldn’t help but figure she recognized me, not that she cared, but that she knew I sat with Kyle. I wasn’t sure if she was present when Morgan, Jill’s boyfriend, was sitting with us.

This brings me to stories Jill used to tell me about when her and their cousin used to taunt and tease her as children. They wouldn’t include her, they were more tomboyish and would ridicule her for not, and other vague details I am sure I didn’t quite care enough to make any storage in memory for her. Regardless, she grew up into high school to pursue the popular-girl route, or Blonde Syndrome as I sometimes refer to it (though she’s brunette). She was pretty, and, cute enough, maintained the adorable Sisters’ snort-laugh, a sort of trademark they had. I always thought of Jill as hot, and I like the slightly awkward, bitchy girls — and Mark informed me later in the car that he used to make Jill cry at parties in high school, oh well — and Jill’s Sister was no different: she’d developed a reputation for being an ice queen, bitchy, snobby, et cetera. She was suburban-hot, wore all the typical suburban outfits, had her hair like all the other suburban high school girls, and was just all-around suburban-hot.

But now she’s sick. In both appearance and health, which is to presume that her soul is no better for ware. So I got to thinking, what if I could make an experiment of her? Somehow infiltrate her world anonymously, lick her from afar with hints of goodwill, care, beauty, and never ever want to meet her. To offer her some mysterious love, never exposed. And even though it could be creepy, it’d have to be kept lighthearted and genuine, it might be able to do some good? The anonymity would hopefully let her know that whoever is sending her these gifts and prompting her to implore herself wanted nothing back in return except for her to, well, get some fucking meat on her body for one.

The world is amazing in that you can mould almost any soul with the subtle reinforcements of simple comments and gesture. Tell a woman, nay a child of a girl, that she’s ugly enough times, eventually she will become that creature of disgust. Here’s the idea: tell a wounded soul that it’s a thing of beauty enough times, what happens?

It’s too bad no one will ever get around to doing it. Though, on that note: my step-sister was anorexic and she's doing well now. Who knows what she'll do for herself. Makes me only half-laugh at the anorexia link I have posted on this blog, but only half-laugh, not completely not-laugh.

Perhaps I'll offer her a sigil or some sort of motion with my next meditation.

20 May 2005

Whipping therapy cures depression and suicide crises


The effect is astounding: a patient starts seeing only bright colors in the surrounding world

Russian scientists from the city of Novosibirsk, Siberia, made a sensational report at the international conference devoted to new methods of treatment and rehabilitation in narcology. The report was called "Methods of painful impact to treat addictive behavior."

Siberian scientists believe that addiction to alcohol and narcotics, as well as depression, suicidal thoughts and psychosomatic diseases occur when an individual loses his or her interest in life. The absence of the will to live is caused with decreasing production of endorphins - the substance, which is known as the hormone of happiness. If a depressed individual receives a physical punishment, whipping that is, it will stir up endorphin receptors, activate the "production of happiness" and eventually remove depressive feelings.

Russian scientists recommend the following course of the whipping therapy: 30 sessions of 60 whips on the buttocks in every procedure. A group of drug addicts volunteered to test the new method of treatment: the results can be described as good and excellent.

Doctor of Biological Sciences, Sergei Speransky, is a very well known figure in Novosibirsk. The doctor became one of the authors of the shocking whipping therapy. The professor used the self-flagellation method to cure his own depression; he also recovered from two heart attacks with the help of physical tortures too.

"The whipping therapy becomes much more efficient when a patients receives the punishment from a person of the opposite sex. The effect is astounding: the patient starts seeing only bright colors in the surrounding world, the heartache disappears, although it will take a certain time for the buttocks to heal, of course," Sergei Speransky told the Izvestia newspaper.

The whipping therapy has not become a new discovery in the history of medicine. Tibetan monks widely used it for medical purposes too. Soviet specialists used a special method of torturing therapy at mental hospitals. They made injections of brimstone and peach oil mixture to inspire mentally unbalanced patience with a will to live. A patient would suffer from horrible pain in the body after such an injection, but he or she would change their attitude to life for the better afterwards.

"People might probably think of me as a masochist," Dr. Speransky said. "But I can assure you that I am not a classic masochist at all," he added.

The revolutionary method may take the Russian healthcare to a whole new level. The method is cheap and highly efficient, as its authors assure. Why not using something more efficient, a rack, for example?

via Pravda

My staff at work

As I'm surrounded by women, sometimes I take advantage of it, sometimes I like to stick to flirting. Most of the time, I must keep in mind, as one coworker put it, that I intimidate or creep out girls that are cozy in their wee world. Ya just wanna shove each and every one of them into a Vice fashion shoot, complete with butane lighter and bag of crack:—



Interestingly, Kris (pictured just above, right side), whom is one of my favourite girls here (cocky and sheltered, but great), just gave me a huge rundown. I told her I was going to try out a sigil composed of elements (not as vain or shallow as the ones presented in an earlier post), and we discussed ourselves as reflections of our relationships. Or as Jean Paul Richter put it:
We learn our virtues from our friends who love us; our faults from the enemy who hates us. We cannot easily discover our real character from a friend. She is a mirror, on which the warmth of our breath impedes the clearness of the reflection.

Kris quoted Austin Powers (or Jerry Maguire, depending), but essentially made cutesies of it: "You complete me."

She also condemned me for my narrow point of view of the world, which never strayed far from my work or "magic stuff," which is true. However, we can't know every experience without looking within and finding only one sensation — ultimately that Zen-like love we hear about.

Perhaps it will be that this über-something I am going to look for will be a self-constructed challenge, a rite of passage of a different order? Maybe not. Seana represents a nice apathy of the perception of pursuit, and balances it with her intense depth of experience that is, I suspect, alien to most. According to my reiki session, a healthy dose of the present would be good for me.

vanity
n 1: feelings of excessive pride [syn: amour propre, conceit, self-love] 2: the quality of being valueless or futile; "he rejected the vanities of the world" [syn: emptiness] 3: the trait of being vain and conceited [syn: conceit]

Is it possible to create an alchemical love between two humans? The key here is to explore union between two persons (or more?) that would be able to bring about such things I've only ever sensed from T. S. Eliot's The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock. I want to think that a union can inspire a dichotomy that strives to find one soul, a profound oneness that can bring about a mutual will to power over the union itself. Jung said "Where love rules, there is no will to power; and where power predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other." Does a true counterbalance exist? I understand the greater notions of both, albeit I am plagued by a constant game of questioning (keeps the the creativity edgy), but can one truly find the middleground? I have a depth of inner-dialogue that I can quietly feel, a tempest at odds with itself, that leads me to believe that what Jung claims is, in fact, the truth of the matter.

And a poetic fluff somewhere that keeps whispering that it can be done. This is my grand adventure for the moment, then... how fun!

As a total bonus to being me, however, the girls are going to hook me up with nude of all of themselves. Ashley is doing a load of nude photos, including all the girls pictures above and a few others among the staff that I desire to see nekked. Happy days, I tell ya!

Rites of passage

Western civilization has never been fair to its young people. We've always had a big Twilight Zone between childhood and adulthood that's difficult to get through.

I like the idea that some primitive tribes practice. When a young man turns a certain age, the village elders take him into a hut, say a bunch of prayers over his head, dust him with some ash from the fire and get him laid by a skilled older woman. When the boy emerges from the hut the next morning, he is a MAN, and everybody treats him as one for the rest of his life.

That's a good, solid Rite of Passage.

Those "primitive" people do the same thing with young girls. When she begins her first period, the village elders take her into a hut, say a bunch of prayers over her head, dust her with some ashes from the fire and tell her all about sex and pleasure. Usually, she doesn't end up getting laid by a skilled older man in the hut, because she's on the rag and all, but when she walks out of there, she is a WOMAN, and everybody treats her as one for the rest of her life.

We don't do those simple, effective rites of passage in Western civilization. We keep young people guessing all the time. We don't provide a clear line of demarcation between youth and adult. I know that I NEVER felt as if I were a grown man until my father died, and I was 40 years old at the time. I had a wife and children, a good job and I owned my own home. But I wasn't certain that I was grown up.

We have a few rites of passage, but they're all half-assed and they don't do the same thing as that trip to the hut with the village elders does. Even when you DO these things, you still keep guessing for years later:

* Get your driver's license. Yep, that'll make you feel like a Tall Dog for a while, but you still have to borrow your parent's car, unless you're some kinda rich shit who gets a brand-new car as a 16th birthday present. That license is a step in the right direction, but it doesn't make you "grown up." You keep guessing.

* Get laid for the first time. I will remember that event until the day I die and I also will forever recall the fact that I didn't feel any DIFFERENT afterward. I don't know what I expected, but I didn't get whatever that was. I kept guessing after that.

* Graduate from high school. Yeah, I did that, but I went straight on to college, so I stayed in the hut for a while longer. I kept guessing.

* Bring home your first paycheck. Hell, I had been doing that since I was twelve years old and I didn't see any rite of passage there. I just worked, the way I was expected to do. I wasn't a rich shit who got a brand-new car for my 16th birthday. If I wanted something, I was expected to buy it with my own money.

* Move out on your own. Hah! THAT is a lot less wonderful than it's cracked up to be. I felt more like a kid than EVER right after I flew the coop and started living on my own. I had to do my own laundry. I had to cook my own meals. I had to buy groceries. I had to wash my own dishes. Man, that SUCKED! I missed my mama, who once did all of that crap for me.

* Have a child. Naw, that won't do it, either. It's a terrifying, emotional experience, but it doesn't make you feel grown-up when it's over. It scared the shit out of me, both times.

I just wish that we made things easier for kids in the Twilight Zone. Let's build a hut, recruit some village elders and start doing this Rite of Passage stuff the correct way. You go in there as a boy or a girl, but you come out as a man or a woman. And everybody KNOWS that you are an adult after that.

Isn't that a lot more simple than what we do?


via Rob Smith at Gut Rumbles

Ask around. You’ll generally find that people who feel this way will say they feel somewhere between mayb 12 and 15 years of age (well, at least for guys - I’ve never asked a girl this question). The reason here, of course, is that this corresponds generally to the age where puberty strikes. During puberty, you undergo a dramatic physiological shift into sexual maturity. You must adapt to the immense and inescapable changes your body undergoes. Your childish attitudes towards sex (ie, thinking that girls have “cooties”) are no longer appropriate, and will not function properly in an adult context. Consequently, it becomes necessary that you transform your mental and emotional state to match your new potential physical abilities and responsibilities.

Some people make this transition successfully on their own. And some do not. Some people may transform during a short time, and others it may take many many years. Primitive puberty initiation rituals functioned to make sure that everyone had a fairly uniform experience, and that their vulnerable young minds were conditioned and patterned according to the symbols, traits and values which were desirable within the culture.

Mythologist Joseph Campbell talked extensively (I think in The Power of Myth) about the lack of a potent universal rite of passage in our culture. One of the interesting points he made was that street gangs arise spontaneously to fill this gap (among other reasons, of course). Children undergo elaborate gang initiation rituals at a point of what Robert Anton Wilson calls “imprint vulnerability”. Out the other end of this they become fully-fledged gang members, completely in tune with a complex hierarchical system of authority and an arcane system of signs, symbols, rituals and language.

For an easy proof-of-concept here, imagine a 13 year old gang member walking up to a stereotypical white guy in his thirties who works in an office, has a fancy car and a 401K, but not much self-confidence. While the cheesy office dude might have the trappings of socially acceptable maturity, the gang member has the psychological transformation to back it up. Even if a confrontation between these hypothetical characters wasn’t violent, it’s more than likely the office guy is going to feel a twinge of fear at the approach of the aggressive dominant youth. He might start sweating, or cross the street to avoid the “thug” or clutch his wallet more tightly to himself. In some way, the fear of lawlessness probably connects to an inadequate feeling of manhood. The office guy fears the gang member, because the gang member isn’t afraid to “do what he wants”, and the only recourse the office guy has is to call on another dominant man - the police officer - to help him.

Campbell also writes in the prologue to The Hero With a Thousand Faces:
In fact, it may well be that the very high incidence of neuroticism among ourselves follows from the decline among us of such effective spiritual aid [as is provided by initiation rituals]. We remain fixated to the unexorcised images of our infancy, and hence disinclined to the necessary passages of our adulthood. In the United States there is even a pathos of inverted emphasis: the goal is not to grow old, but to remain young […]


via Tim Boucher

A sex magic primer


Sex magic is as old as mankind. Everyone, even in the dullest vanilla relationship, has felt at some time that it's magical, or at least should be. Sex is used by the forces of society (read the forces of stupidity) to make us do anything from buy a certain brand of car to vote in certain ways. If we allow ourselves to be entranced by these prepackaged images of sex — instead of creating our own magic — we are slaves. If we begin the realization of our fantasies, we begin to participate in what it is to be gods. One of the oldest (and still practiced) forms of sex magic is Tantra. In Tantra practices there are two principles — one the source of power called Shakti, and the other the director of power called Shiva. This corresponds directly to our practice wherein one individual is the director/Dom and one the acted upon/Submissive. All of us in the scene for any length of time have always known that the real power is on the bottom. Such practices continue to flourish (and therefore change the direction of the world) not in the East as Tantra, but in the West as "Gardnerian" Wicca. Fairly obviously the "god" Shiva need not be male, nor the "goddess" Shakti female.

Magic is the art or science of causing changes in the world through will alone. This is very, very hard — if it wasn't we would never encounter a red light while we drove. Many people try conventional magic and have little or no results. They simply don't have enough passion. But sex provides the greatest amount of passion easily available to the magician. Sex provides energy by creating a tension that is released in orgasms. The forces of the individuals involved flow out into the world freely at this moment. Now as we all know the orgasms that follows an intense D/S scene are much, much more powerful than the orgasm that may occur in vanilla lovemaking. Why? Because of the greater consciousness and separation of the individuals involved. Each were working on two very different tracks, two different parts of reality — but the moment of release brought them into one will. Note carefully I am not talking about simultaneous orgasms, which are more powerful still, but the orgasms of a submissive who has been put through her or his paces. Now if that energy is directed (by words, or thoughts, symbolic items in the room, visualization, etc.) to a particular goal — the energy will fly forth as a lighting bolt and strike the desired target, beginning to force it to change in accordance with the Wills of the persons involved.

continued via Don Webb

Sex magic, is it different than sex prayer?

In August of 1996, an anonymous person posting as doconn7304@aol.com wrote to the newsgroup alt.magick.tantra:—

Tantra, [seems] to me ... more of a Hindu spiritual journey in which control brings pleasure and spiritual elevation, and Sex Magic ... seems to be more centered in sexual fulfillment as a goal in itself. The former appears to appeal to the need for spiritual nourishment and the latter to desire to have a more fulfilling sex life.

My response was that while i agreed with that definition of tantra yoga up to a point, i felt the poster had missed a vital factor i often read in posts from self-proclaimed practitioners of sex magic (also spelled sex magick, with the Crowleyan "k").

Sex magicians, such as Austin Osman Spare, openly advocate the use of the sex act -- or the passions or arousal states it evokes -- as a point upon which to focus their wills or magical desire for effects in the non-sexual world. This is fine and well, but for some reason, many of these same sex magick practitioners also seem to feel that those who practice tantra yoga, neo-tantra or karezza a similar interest in using the sex act as a focal point for will. For instance, in 1995 there was some discussion in usenet of whether tantra yoga is simply a "spiritual" path and thus not suitable to be listed among the "sex magick" and other magical disciplines archived by tyagi nagasiva (who maintains a valuable reference file on accessing information on the occult via the net).

As i see it, though, the split between "sacred sex" and "spiritual sex" on the one hand and "magical sex" or "sex magic" on the other hand does not lie on the line that divides tantra and karezza from sex magic -- it lies on the line that divides certain forms of tantra from other forms of tantra and all karezza.

For instance, in the 1870s Paschal Beverly Randolph, an American author whom many sex-magicians consider one of themselves, wrote (in his book "Eulis!") of using the "nuptive moment" (orgasm) as the time to make a "prayer" (and that is the word he used) for events to occur as well as for healthy offspring to follow. He advocated orgasm control and the accomplishment of simultaneous orgasms as a way to realize these goals.

Likewise, Alice Bunker Stockham, the proponent of karezza techniques (and not a sex-magician) wrote of using the act of coition as a time to pray for non-sexual goals in the outer world, such as "charity."

Similarly, in traditional Hindu tantra yoga, the yoni puja ceremony (performed either upon the vulva of a living woman or upon a stone statue of a woman's genitals) is often accompanied by prayers for effects in the real world -- magical (a-causal) effects such as a better job, restored health, and so forth.

In short, i have come to believe that many practitioners of sex magick are ignorant of the use of the will and the plrole played by sex magic in tantra yoga, neo-tantra, and karezza.

Which is not to say that ALL forms of tantra yoga are like that -- merely that the distinction some sex magicians see between sex magic and sex religion is based in ignorance on their part.

via Catherine Yronwode

The Art of Seduction

1 — Choose the Right Victim
Everything depends on the target of your seduction. Study your prey thoroughly, and choose only those who will prove susceptible to your charms. The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic. They are often isolated or at least somewhat unhappy (perhaps because of recent adverse circumstances), or can easily be made so—for the completely contented person is almost impossible to seduce. The perfect victim has some natural quality that attracts you. The strong emotions this quality inspires will help make your seductive manoeuvres seem more natural and dynamic. The perfect victim allows for the perfect chase.

2 — Create a False Sense of Security — Approach Indirectly
If you are too direct early on, you risk stirring up a resistance that will never be lowered. At first there must be nothing of the seducer in your manner. The seduction should begin at an angle, indirectly, so that the target only gradually becomes aware of you. Haunt the periphery of your target’s life—approach through a third party, or seem to cultivate a relatively neutral relationship, moving gradually from friend to lover. Arrange an occasional “chance” encounter, as if you and your target were destined to become acquainted—nothing is more seductive than a sense of destiny. Lull the target into feeling secure, then strike.

3 — Send Mixed Signals
Once people are aware of your presence, and perhaps vaguely intrigued, you need to stir their interest before it settles on someone else. What is obvious and striking may attract their attention at first, but that attention is often short-lived; in the long run, ambiguity is much more potent. Most of us are much too obvious—instead, be hard to figure out. Send mixed signals: both tough and tender, both spiritual and earth, both innocent and cunning. A mix of qualities suggests depth, which fascinates even as it confuses. An elusive, enigmatic aura will make people want to know more, drawing them into your circle. Create such a power by hinting at something contradictory within you.

4 — Appear to be an Object of Desire — Create Triangles
Few are drawn to the person whom others avoid or neglect; people gather around those who have already attracted interest. We want what other people want. To draw your victims closer and make them hungry to possess you, you must create an aura of desirability—of being wanted and courted by many. It will become a point of vanity for them to be the preferred object of your attention, to win you away from a crowd of admirers. Manufacture the illusion of popularity by surrounding yourself with members of the opposite sex—friends, former lovers, present suitors. Create triangles that stimulate rivalry and raise your value. Build a reputation that precedes you: if many have succumbed to your charms, there must be a reason.

5 — Create a Need — Stir Anxiety and Discontent
A perfectly satisfied person cannot be seduced. Tension and disharmony must be instilled in your targets’ minds. Stir within them feelings of discontent, and unhappiness with their circumstances and with themselves: their life lacks adventure, they have strayed from the ideals of their youth, they have become boring. The feelings of inadequacy that you create will give you space to insinuate yourself, to make them see you as the answer to their problems. Pain and anxiety are the proper precursors to pleasure. Learn to manufacture the need that you can fill.

6 — Master the Art of Insinuation
Making your targets feel dissatisfied and in need of your attention is essential, but if you are too obvious, they will see right through you and grow defensive. There is no known defense, however, against insinuation—the art of planting ideas in people’s minds by dropping elusive hints that take root days later, even appearing to them as their own idea. Insinuation is the supreme means to influencing people. Create a sublanguage—bold statements followed by retraction and apology, ambiguous comments, banal talk combined with alluring glances—that enters the target’s unconscious to convey your real meaning. Make everything suggestive.

7 — Enter Their Spirit
Most people are locked in their own worlds, making them stubborn and hard to persuade. The way to lure them out of their shell and set up your seduction is to enter their spirit. Play by their rules, enjoy what they enjoy, adapt yourself to their moods. In doing so you will stroke their deep-rooted narcissism and lower their defenses. Hypnotised by the mirror image you present, they will open up, becoming vlberable to your subtle influence. Soon you can shift the dynamic: once you have entered their spirit you can make then enter yours, at a point when it is too late to turn back. Indulge your targets’ every mood and whim, giving them nothing to react against or resist.

8 — Create Temptation
Lure the target deep into your seduction by creating the proper temptation: a glimpse of the pleasures to come. As the serpent tempted Eve with the promise of forbidden knowledge, you must awaken a desire in your targets that they cannot control. Find that weakness of theirs, that fantasy that has yet to be realised, and hint that you can lead them toward it. It could be wealth, it could be adventure, it could be forbidden and guilty pleasures; the key is to keep it vague. Dangle the prize before their eyes, postponing satisfaction, and let their minds do the rest. The future seems ripe with possibility. Stimulate a curiosity stronger than the doubts and anxieties that go with it, and they will follow you.

9 — Keep Them in Suspense — What Comes Next?
The moment people feel they know what to expect from you, your spell on them is broken. More: you have ceded them power. The only way to lead the seduced along and keep the upper hand is to create suspense, a calculated surprise. People love a mystery, and this is the key to luring them further into your web. Behave in a way that leaves them wondering, What are you up to? Doing something they do not expect from you will give them a delightful sense of spontaneity—they will not be able to foresee what comes next. You are always one step ahead and in control. Give the victim a thrill with a sudden change of direction.

10 — Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow Confusion
It is hard to make people listen; they are consumed with their own thoughts and desires, and have little time for yours. The trick to making them listen is to say what they want to hear, to fill their ears with whatever is pleasant to them. This is the essence of seductive language. Inflame people’s emotions with loaded phrases, flatter them, comfort their insecurities, envelop them in fantasies, sweet words, and promises, and not only will they listen to you, they will lose their will to resist you. Keep your language vague, letting them read into it what they want. Use writing to stir up fantasies and to create an idealised portrait of yourself.

11 — Pay Attention to Detail
Lofty words and grand gestures can be suspicious: why are you trying so hard to please? The details of a seduction—the subtle gestures, the offhand things you do—are often more charming and revealing. You must learn to distract your victims with a myriad of pleasant little rituals—thoughtful gifts tailored just for them, clothes and adornments designed to please them, gestures that show them the time and attention you are paying them. All of their senses are engaged in the details you orchestrate. Create spectacles to dazzle their eyes; mesmerised by what they see, they will not notice what you are really up to. Learn to suggest the proper feelings and moods through details.

12 — Poeticise Your Presence
Important things happen when your targets are alone: the slightest feeling of relief that you are not there, and it is all over. Familiarity and overexposure will cause this reaction. Remain elusive, then, so that when you are away, they will yearn to see you again, and will associate you only with pleasant thoughts. Occupy their minds by alternating an exciting presence with a cool distance, exuberant moments followed by calculated absences. Associate yourself with poetic images and objects, so that when they think of you, they begin to see you through an idealised halo. The more you figure in their minds, the more they will envelop you in seductive fantasies. Feed these fantasies by subtle inconsistencies and changes in your behaviour.

13 — Disarm Through Strategic Weakness and Vulnerability
Too much manoeuvring on your part may raise suspicion. The best way to cover your tracks is to make the other person feel superior and stronger. If you seem to be weak, vulnerable, enthralled by the other person, and unable to control yourself, you will make your actions look more natural, less calculated. Physical weakness—tears, bashfulness, paleness—will help create the effect. To further win trust, exchange honesty for virtue: establish your “sincerity” by confessing some sin of your part—it doesn’t have to be real. Sincerity is more important than goodness. Play the victim, then transform your target’s sympathy into love.

14 — Confuse Desire and Reality — The Perfect Illusion
To compensate for the difficulties in their lives, people spend a lot of their time daydreaming, imaging a future full of adventure, success, and romance. If you can create the illusion that through you they can live out their dreams, you will have them at your mercy. It is important to start slowly, gaining their trust, and gradually constructing the fantasy that matches their desires. Aim at secret wishes that have been thwarted or repressed, stirring up uncontrollable emotions, clouding their powers of reason. The perfect illusion is one that does not depart too much from reality, but has a touch of the unreal to it, like a waking dream. Lead the seduced to a point of confusion in which they can no longer tell the difference between illusion and reality.

15 — Isolate the Victim
An isolated person is weak. By slowly isolating your victims, you make them more vulnerable to your influence. Their isolation may be psychological: by filling their field of vision through the pleasurable attention you pay them, you crowd out everything else in their mind. They see and thing only of you. The isolation may also be physical: you take them away from their normal milieu, friends, family, home. Give them the sense of being marginalised, in limbo—they are leaving one world behind and entering another. Once isolated like this, they have no outside support, and in their confusion they are easily led astray. Lure the seduced into your lair, where nothing is familiar.

16 — Prove Yourself
Most people want to be seduced. If they resist your efforts, it is probably because you have not gone far enough to allay their doubts—about your motives, the depth of your feelings, and so on. One well-timed action that shows how far you are willing to go to win them over will dispel their doubts. Do not worry about looking foolish or making a mistake—any kind of deed that is self-sacrificing and for your targets’ sake will so overwhelm their emotions, they won’t notice anything else. Never appear discouraged by people’s resistance, or complain. Instead, meet the challenge by doing something extreme or chivalrous. Conversely, spur others to prove themselves by making yourself had to reach, unattainable, worth fighting over.

17 — Effect a Regression
People who have experienced a certain kind of pleasure in the past will try to repeat or relive it. The deepest-rooted and most pleasurable memories are usually those from earliest childhood, and are often unconsciously associated with a parental figure. Bring your targets back to that point by placing yourself in the oedipal triangle and positioning them as the needy child. Unaware of the cause of their emotional response, they will fall in love with you. Alternately, you too can regress, letting them play the role of the protecting, nursing parent. In either case you are offering the ultimate fantasy: the chance to have an intimate relationship with mommy or daddy, son or daughter.

18 — Stir Up the Transgressive and Taboo
There are always social limits on what one can do. Some of these, the most elemental taboos, go back centuries; others are more superficial, simply defining polite and acceptable behaviour. Making your targets feel that you are leading them past either kind of limit is immensely seductive. People yearn to explore their dark side. Not everything in romantic love is supposed to be tender and soft; hint that you have a cruel, even sadistic streak. You do not respect age differences, marriage vows, family ties. Once the desire to transgress draws your targets to you, it will be hard for them to stop. Take them further than they imagined—the shared feeling of guilt and complicity will create a powerful bond.

19 — Use Spiritual Lures
Everyone has doubts and insecurities—about their body, their self-worth, their sexuality. If your seduction appeals exclusively to the physical, you will stir up these doubts and make your targets self-conscious. Instead, lure them out of the insecurities by making them focus on something sublime and spiritual: a religious experience, a lofty work of art, the occult. Play up your divine qualities; affect an air of discontent with worldly things; speak of the stars, destiny, the hidden threads that unite you and the object of the seduction. Lost in a spiritual mist, the target will feel light and uninhibited. Deepen the effect of your seduction by making its sexual culmination seem like the spiritual union of two souls.

20 — Mix Pleasure with Pain
The greatest mistake in seduction is being too nice. At first, perhaps, your kindness is charming, but it soon grows monotonous; you are trying too hard to please, and seem insecure. Instead of overwhelming your targets with niceness, try inflicting some pain. Lure them in with focused attention, then change direction, appearing suddenly uninterested. Make them feel guilty and insecure. Even instigate a break-up, subjecting them to an emptiness and pain that will give you room to manoeuvre—now a rapprochement, an apology, a return to your earlier kindness, will turn them weak at the knees. The lower the lows you create, the greater the highs. To heighten the erotic charge, create the excitement of fear.

21 — Give Them Space to Fall — The Pursuer Is Pursued
If your targets become too used to you as the aggressor, they will give less of their own energy, and the tension will slacken. You need to wake them up, turn the tables. Once they are under your spell, take a step back and they will start to come after you. Begin with a touch of aloofness, an unexpected non-appearance, a hint that you are growing bored. Stir the pot by seeming interested in someone else. Make none of this explicit; let them only sense it and their imagination will do the rest, creating the doubt you desire. Soon they will want to possess you physically, and restraint will go out the window. The goal is to have them fall into your arms of their own will. Create the illusion that the seducer is being seduced.

22 — Use Physical Lures
Targets with active minds are dangerous: if they see through your manipulations, they may suddenly develop doubts. Put their minds gently to rest, and waken their dormant senses, by combining a non-defensive attitude with a charged sexual presence. While your cool nonchalant air is calming their minds and lowering their inhibitions, your glances, voice, and bearing—oozing sex and desire—are getting under their skin, agitating their senses and raising their temperature. Never force the physical; instead infect your targets with heat, lure them into lust. Lead them into the moment—an intensified present in which the morality, judgement, and concern for the future all melt away and the body succumbs to pleasure.

23 — Master the Art of the Bold Move
A moment has arrived: your victim clearly desires you, but is not ready to admit it openly, let alone act on it. This is the time to throw aside chivalry, kindness, and coquetry and to overwhelm with a bold move. Don’t give the victim time to consider the consequences; create conflict, stir up tension, so that the bold move comes as a great release. Showing hesitation or awkwardness means you are thinking yourself, as opposed to being overwhelmed by the victim’s charms. Never hold back or meet the target halfway, under the belief that you are being correct and considerate; you must be seductive now, not political. One person must go on the offensive, and it is you.

24 — Beware the After-effects
Danger follows in the aftermath of a successful seduction. After emotions have reached a pitch, they often swing in the opposite direction—toward lassitude, distrust, disappointment. Beware of the long, drawn-out goodbye; insecure, the victim will cling and claw, and both sides will suffer. If you are to part, make the sacrifice swift and sudden. If necessary, deliberately break the spell you have created. If you are to stay in a relationship, beware a flagging of energy, a creeping familiarity that will spoil the fantasy. If the game is to go on, a second seduction is required. Never let the other person take you for granted—use absence, create pain and conflict, to keep the seduced on tenterhooks.

from Robert Greene's Art of Seduction

EDIT — Just watching Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip (Jan 2007), the character Matt Albie (Matthew Perry) spends the whole episode ragging on Greene's first book, The 48 Laws of Power. He calls it "a guide to accumulating power for people that have never heard of Machiavelli." From Wikipedia:
Among the 48 are laws such as "Law 3: Conceal your intentions" and "Law 15: Crush your enemy totally." His next book The Art of Seduction is similar to 48 Laws in organization and tone but goes more in-depth regarding soft persuasion. It draws on historical characters such as Casanova and Lord Byron and analyzes the methods of seduction. The 33 Strategies of War is a kind of modern version of Sun Tzu's classic treatise on war, with some of Greene's original additions, relevant in the world of warfare today.

Robert Greene is currently working on a book with 50 Cent, entitled 50 Laws of Power.

I'm getting the feeling that Greene is something of a cheeseball and not exactly relevant in today's information economy.

A sigil for a girl?


Okay, so coming back from Metro and a couple fools are chasing someone down the street with a rifle. Some off-duty cop follows them outside out apartment and calls for others. Cruiser arrives, cop gets out with shotgun and pins them in our parking lot. Another cruiser and a motorcycle cop swing in (impressed with the response time, I am), and the situation is cute until they flash the flashlight in our faces as we're looking through the landing windows. We decide to go back and make some pasta and watch them pack the kids into the cruisers from our balcony.

Just earlier, at Metro, gave Sarah a copy of Mindhunter after she informed me of her apparent joy for reading and that CSI is her favourite tv show. Perhaps she'll even read it.

Even earlier, Jer and I were at Squire's on Whyte and everyone there was in a dire need of fashion sense, let alone any sort of cultural significance.

I figure that taking Sarah's ideal body (round tummy, small tits, etc) — this opposite-of-everything purported by magazines to be perfect — that I should perhaps make a sigil to introduce new elements into my world. But Sarah is a standard format sort of "Pretty Girl," the whole Cosmo-reading, rollerblading sort of thing, albeit a cool chick, I need to cross-combine elements I like from those that I tend to be attracted to.

Tara is right in stating that I am unconsciously pursuing every girl I don't want, or can't have, so I should take every element of said prospects and devise a sigil to act as a Universal casting call to bring some opportunity my way.

I am thinking of Sarah's nonchalant sexiness, Seana's great taste in culture (and maybe her tits and legs), hmm... perhaps Sabrina's good will, Tara's sensitivies, perhaps a touch of Jillian... and voilà!

I shall develop this über-girl sigil in the next week. Interesting, mostly because I rarely cast magic to garner anything. And when I do use sigils, things generally tend to turn out awry. Not in a bad way, just in an awry way.

19 May 2005

Obese women 'lose brain tissue'


Women who are obese throughout their life are more likely to lose brain tissue, researchers have found.

This loss is one of the first indications a person is going to develop dementia.

Carrying extra weight was a risk even if other factors, such as diabetes, were taken into account.

The researchers, from the Sahlgrenska University Hospital in Goteborg, Sweden, is published in the journal Neurology.

Nerve cell damage

Whether or not a person is of a healthy weight is determined by their BMI, or body mass index.

This is calculated by dividing the square of your height in metres by your weight in kilograms. A BMI of over 25 is classed as overweight, and over 30 as obese.

Just under 300 women aged between 46 and 60 were studied over 24 years.

Every six years, researchers carried out computer tomography (CT) scans to study their brain tissue and calculated their BMI.

The study found that the higher the women's BMI, the greater the chance they would experience brain tissue loss, known as cerebral atrophy.

Being overweight also raised a woman's chances of being affected, the study found.

Almost 50% of the women were found to have lost temporal lobe tissue. The average BMI in that group was higher than that in the unaffected group throughout the study.

The research team say the results are consistent with their previous findings showing that being overweight was a risk factor for Alzheimer's disease.

continued via the BBC